Sexual intercourse is part of what is known as "left hand Tantra". There are many, many sexual positions which have Tantric applications, either for specific ritual purposes, or as part of making sexuality in general free from any restriction or difficulty.
In popular culture, sex positions are valued for variety and enhancing pleasure, with guides listing up to 45 different sex positions, or even 67 different sex positions for the curious couple to try. Bold articles trumpet "12 New Sex Positions You Should Try This Year" (as though in the thousands of years humans have had leisure time for sexual exploration, they may have overlooked not one, but twelve different sexual positions!)
In Tantra, sexual positions are valued for their healing properties, for activating particular chakras, and for assisting in the sublimation of sexual energy for spiritual purposes.
- 1 Sex Positions for Size Mismatch
- 2 Sex Positions to Activate Chakras
- 3 Sex Positions for Female Orgasm
- 4 References
Sex Positions for Size Mismatch
Larger Lingam, Smaller Yoni
Some women have smaller vaginas than others, and a well-endowed man can unintentionally cause pain for these women, simply through being too large.
Lots of foreplay, and extra lubricant, can minimise the discomfort. Using a dildo during foreplay can help to encourage the vagina to relax and expand before introducing the penis.
Some sexual positions are better than others. Even with good preparation, sexual positions which allow for deep penetration can allow a large penis to overextend the vagina, in some cases even causing tearing .
Smaller Lingam, Larger Yoni
For a woman with a larger vagina, suggesting certain sexual positions can support the less well-endowed man to give you maximum orgasmic joy.
Having your legs together, rather than apart, increases stimulation, and also brings your external clitoral nub into contact with his pubic bone more often. This works for missionary and "woman on top" positions. Bringing your legs together also increases sensation in doggy-style and other positions where he enters from behind. Adjust your position so that he is striking the G-spot area, which is close enough to the entrance to be reached by even a micro-penis.
If a man is highly motivated, he can actually increase the size of his lingam using a natural method known as jelqing. This method involves daily stretching and massaging of the lingam to increase blood flow and relax connective tissue.
Sex Positions to Activate Chakras
Muladhara lovemaking is characterised as strong, powerful, rough, raw, and animalistic; it often involves heavy banging of the pelvis. The sex position pictured, which allows for vigorous stimulation of the perineum, is ideal for awakening muladhara chakra.Anal sex always resonates at the level of muladhara, even if the level of consciousness of the partners is also resonating at higher levels, because of the physical location of the anus in the realm of muladhara.
It is possible to stimulate muladhara and sahasrara chakras at the same time during sexual intercourse, using a modification to the muladhara sex position. The man stands, and the woman sits on the edge of a bench or table at the appropriate height. The man may place one knee on the surface, if required.
Because of its association with water, svadhisthana brings the "juice" in sexuality; this is the home of sexual desire. Svadhisthana brings emotion, drama, creativity and romance; it is a sexuality where romance and ambiance matter.
Svadhisthana lovemaking resembles belly dancing, with supple hip movements, pubic bone contact, and lots of sweat, lubrication, fluids, and wet kisses. The classic missionary position is most resonant with the energy of svadhisthana chakra.
Manipura sexuality is characterised by fire, enthusiasm, dynamism and confidence. It is like a dance, in which one conducts, and the other surrenders.
Manipura is hot and passionate; it brings competition and domination to lovemaking. Bondage and S&M are expressions of the surrender/domination aspect of manipura. The pure passion of manipura can find expression in biting, pinching, nail scratching and solid grabbing.
The woman-on-top position in particular can stimulate manipura chakra.
An open and harmonious anahata chakra allows for states of unconditional love, surrender and devotion. Anahata sexuality is focused on intimacy and union, yet it is playful and spontaneous.
Anahata lovemaking creates such intense pleasure from simple, non-genital touch that penetrative intercourse feels unnecessary. At the level of anahata, partners can orgasm and be completely satisfied without any of the physical activities which characterise sex on the lower chakras.
Sexual positions which activate anahata include rear entry positions, which allow both partners to open their chests, and the traditional Yab Yum position.
Sexual positions in which the legs of the partners are crossed, in "scissors" style, can stimulate vishuddha chakra.
Vishuddha sexuality is characterized by transfiguration of the self and the other. At this level of consciousness, the individual moves beyond merely imagining themselves and the partner as aspects of the Divine, and enters into the actual experience of transfiguration. Lovemaking at this level evokes the eternal cosmic dance of energy and awareness, the Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine principles, Shiva and Shakti.
The vishuddha man and women are transpersonal lovers; rather than loving the unique individuality they each represent, they love the divine essence in each other. Rather than the union of two individual beings, sexuality on vishuddha is the union of two aspects of the Divine. Sexuality on vishuddha is mystical and pure, abstract and symbolic. The individual consciousness is surrendered to the Divine unfolding of the energies of the universe.
The cultivation of transpersonal love results in a powerful elevation of consciousness.
Many deep spiritual sexual practices can awaken ajna chakra, without requiring any specific sexual position. The traditional yab yum position both stimulates ajna chakra and symbolises the cosmic union of Shiva (consciousness) with Shakti (manifestation). Because this position also stimulates anahata chakra, it can help to overcome the potential coldness of a pure ajna consciousness.
A blockage on ajna chakra allows for the condition of spiritual forgetfulness to persist and sexual Tantric practices remain devoid of a spiritual direction and commitment. A lack of energy in ajna chakra can result in weak sexual retention in men.
There is no sex at the level of sahasrara because there is no manifestation here; only pure consciousness exists. Sahasrara consciousness is a place of pure existence, of witnessing. Immaterial and peaceful, it is self-realization. At this level, there is no more man or woman, no more “me” or “you,” only oneness remains. This is the end goal and the result of Tantric lovemaking. It is when kundalini rises up to sahasrara, and lovers can only sit and meditate in bliss.
During Tantric lovemaking, a couple can encourage the movement of energy into sahasrara by assuming a meditative position, even as their bodies are still sexually connected.
Sex Positions for Female Orgasm
Many aspects of sexual Tantra are supportive of female orgasm, including male ejaculation control, extended foreplay, and a focus on deep connection and full-body orgasm for both partners. For women who orgasm less readily, some sexual positions can also be supportive.
Easy Over - the woman lies on her back, with both her legs over the man, who lies on his side. This position is restful for both partners, gives easy access for the man to provide additional stimulation to the clitoris, and allows for extended lovemaking without strain. Both partners can relax and enjoy the slow build of Tantric orgasm.
Classic and Reverse Cowgirl - the man lies flat on his back, and the woman sits astride him. This position allows the woman complete freedom of movement, so that she can find the most pleasurable points of stimulation. She can rotate her hips backward, to press her clitoris against the man's pubic bone, or forward, to allow hands to stimulate the clitoris - hers or his. She can make circling and grinding movements, alternatives to the "in and out" movement which is most common when the man is driving the motion. The woman can also face backward, the "reverse cowgirl". For some women, the reverse cowgirl position is even more pleasurable than the classic cowgirl.