Female Orgasm

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Orgasm is a gateway to altered states of consciousness, and Tantric orgasm is an essential part of Tantric practice. The female body is more naturally oriented toward Tantric orgasm than the male body, because the male body is reflexively programmed to ejaculate, and ejaculation interferes with Tantric orgasm. With practice, men can learn to separate ejaculation from orgasm during Tantric sex, and can experience full-body orgasms analogous to the female orgasm.

Female orgasm can take many forms, because of the complex nature of female anatomy and neurology.

Female Anatomy

Female anatomy reproduced with permission from Agama Yoga

The appearance of a woman’s genital organs (the vulva) is as individual as her face or body type. However, there are basic anatomical structures common to all women. 

The mons pubis is a fatty mound of tissue that covers the pubic bone. It is also called the “mons”, mons veneris or mound of Venus.

Outer lips (labia majora): The labia majora are fleshy folds of skin, fat tissue, and smooth muscle that enclose the vaginal opening. Pubic hair, which may be plentiful or sparse depending on the individual, grows along the outer edges of the labia.

Like the scrotum, the labia majora respond erotically to gentle touch. As a woman becomes sexually aroused, increased bloodflow makes them swell and appear puffy.

Inner lips (labia minora): The labia minora are second set of thinner tissue folds, closer to the vaginal opening. Unlike the pubic hair–studded outer lips, the labia minora have a smooth surface, and are rich in tiny blood vessels and nerve endings.

Their color ranges from pale pink to burgundy, or even grey. The shape, size and symmetry also differ, with some women having no visible external structure at all. The inner lips contain erectile tissue that swells during sexual arousal, often extending beyond the outer lips. Like the penile shaft, the inner vaginal lips contain lots of nerve endings sensitive to erotic touch.

The two inner lips join in front to form a soft fold of skin, or hood, over and covering the glans, or tip of the clitoris. 

The structure of the clitoris and deeper structures of female pelvis are still subject for study and debate in anatomy, physiology, sexology and psychology. The clitoris is a very complex structure, mostly internal, partially visible in the front side of vulvar vestibule as the glans – a pea-shaped protrusion covered by the clitoral hood. The clitoris holds some 8,000 sensory nerve endings, a greater concentration of touch-sensitive nerves than any other structure in the body – and more than the head of the penis.

The clitoral body extends up inside the perineum before reversing direction and branching, resulting in an inverted "V" or wishbone shape to form the crura (singular crus – legs). Clitoral tissue surrounds the urethra, and extends along both sides and the back of the vagina.

Erectile tissue contains vascular sinuses (cavities) that are capable of becoming distended and rigid as the result of being filled with blood during sexual arousal. In men, all erectile tissue is concentrated in the shaft of the penis while in women it is distributed throughout the vulva. Both derive from the same embryonic structures. The glans of the clitoris corresponds to the head of the penis and the labia majora correspond to the scrotum. 

The Bartholin’s glands are located to the left and right of the back of the vaginal opening – picturing the vulva as a clock, they are located at four and eight o'clock. They are too small to perceive in their normal condition. They provide around a third of the lubrication fluid under normal circumstances.

The external urethral orifice (urinary meatus) is between the clitoris and the vagina. This fleshy mound can be extremely erotically pleasurable when stimulated. It is also referred to as the U-Spot - the highly sensitive erectile tissue just above the urethra, between the clitoris and the urethra.

The Skene's glands (also known as the lesser vestibular glands, periurethral glands, skene glands, paraurethral glands, or female prostate) are located on the front wall of the vagina, around the lower end of the urethra. They drain into the urethra, near the urethral opening and may be near or a part of the G-Spot. It has been postulated that the Skene’s glands are the source of female ejaculation as they secrete a sometimes large amount of lubricating fluid, which is mostly filtered blood plasma. Skene's glands have highly variable anatomy, and in some women they appear to be absent entirely. This may explain the ongoing difficulty in establishing a scientific consensus on the details of the G-spot and female ejaculation.

The Gräfenberg Spot, often called the G-Spot, is topic for fierce disagreements over its existence as a distinct structure, definition or location. Many women report that it is a sensitive erogenous zone that can lead to powerful orgasms and female ejaculation. 

The G-Spot is typically described as being located one to three inches (2.5 to 7.6 cm) up the front vaginal wall fro the entrance of the vagina. While not perceivable in non-aroused condition, the G-Spot becomes erect with arousal, and can then be felt as a bumpy or swollen area.

Around the vaginal orifice (introitus), there might be visible the remains of the hymen, also known as the vaginal corona. This is a thin, elastic membrane that may resemble the petals of a flower or the half-moon. The hymen has no known function; it is probably a remnant of fetal development.

The hymen has been the subject of great deal of religious hysteria over the centuries, due to the false beliefs that all women are born with an intact hymen, and that it can only be removed by sexual intercourse. This lead to the equation of an intact hymen with virginity. This is, however, a completely false assumption. Some women are born without a hymen, while others have a hymen elastic enough to support a career as a sex worker without rupturing.

The perineum is commonly known as the small region between the vagina and the anus, although in anatomy the entire pelvic floor from pubic bone to the coccyx (tail bone) is referred to as the perineum.

The anus (from Latin meaning "ring" or "circle") is the external opening of the rectum and digestive tube. Circular muscles called sphincters control its closure giving it its external appearance and name. The anus has a relatively high concentration of nerve endings, making it an intensely erogenous zone. 

The word vagina comes from the Latin word for “sheath”. The vagina is a 3 to 5-inch tube of highly elastic tissue that extends from the vulvar vestibule to the base of the uterus. In the majority of cases, when the woman stands upright, the vaginal tube points in an upward-backward direction and forms an angle of slightly more than 90 degrees with the uterus. About one in five women has a retroverted uterus, which lies against her spine instead of on top of her bladder.

With arousal, the vagina lengthens rapidly and tents (last 2/3rd expands in length and width), while the cervix retracts.

The uterus is a muscular, fist-sized organ shaped like an upside-down pear. The primary job of the uterus is to harbor a growing fetus during pregnancy. It is located in the pelvis immediately behind the urinary bladder and in front of the rectum. It is held in place by several ligaments. 

Erogenous zones in the vagina

The fornices of the vagina (sing. fornix of the vagina or fornix vaginae) are the deepest portions of the vagina, extending into the recesses (niche) created by the vaginal wall curving to connect to the cervix. The word 'fornix' is Latin for 'arch'.

The anterior fornix erogenous zone (also known as the AFE zone, or A-spot) is reportedly able, when stimulated, to lead to rapid vaginal lubrication and arousal, resulting in an intense orgasm. Regular stimulation of the A-spot for 5-10 minutes per day is said to increase lubrication in women suffering from vaginal dryness.

During sexual intercourse, in the missionary position, the tip of the penis reaches the anterior (front) fornix, while in the rear-entry position it reaches the P-Spot, the posterior (rear) fornix.

The G-Spot is typically described as being located one to three inches (2.5 to 7.6 cm) up the front vaginal wall fro the entrance of the vagina. While not perceivable in non-aroused condition, the G-Spot becomes erect with arousal, and can then be felt as a bumpy or swollen area. Many women report that it is a sensitive erogenous zone that can lead to powerful orgasms and female ejaculation.

The K-Spot - "Kundalini" spot is a sensitive spot on the rear vaginal wall just above the anus.

The cervix (from the Latin cervix uteri, meaning "neck of the womb") is the knoblike tip of the uterus, which forms the opening of the womb inside the vagina. The cervix secretes mucus, the consistency of which varies with the stages in menstrual cycle. Moving the cervix can stimulate deep uterine muscles, which are involved in the most complex and profound forms of female orgasm.

Types of Female Orgasm

Explosive vs Implosive Orgasms

Explosive orgasms occur when the sexual energy is expelled and lost at the moment of orgasm, depleting the vitality and femininity of the woman. Implosive orgasms occur when the energy stays within the being, and can be used for healing and spiritual purposes.

External orgasms, primarily derived from external stimulation of the clitoral nub, have a tendency to be explosive and to resemble the male orgasm. They are usually short, create contraction in the body, and leave the clitoris with a feeling of not wanting to be further stimulated. Explosive, external orgasms generally offer satisfaction only on the physical level.

Internal orgasms are usually implosive, and require more than just physical stimulation. To develop internal, implosive orgasms a woman needs to engage her astral/emotional body - to become vulnerable, open up, trust, and surrender. These subtle energetic and emotional commitments are the key to opening up to Tantric orgasms

Multiple Orgasms

Until quite recently, doctors believed that only a tiny minority of women could have multiple orgasms. Research has shown that in fact, the majority of females can have a series of climaxes, one after the other if, that is, they're happy and relaxed in the relationship and if the partner is willing to stimulate them to 'come' again and again. [3]

The Orgasmic Plateau

Orgasmic Plateau by Agama Yoga.png

When given appropriate support, a woman can reach a state known as "the orgasmic plateau". In this state, all sensations are blissfully good, and it takes very little additional stimulation to cause an orgasmic peak. After a peak, the woman remains in the peri-orgasmic state, ready to peak again with in a minute or two.

With Tantric training, a man can learn to hold off from ejaculating, and ultimately he can share the experience of the orgasmic plateau, peaking when his partner peaks. Once both partners have attained the orgasmic plateau, it is possible to have extended meditation sessions while experiencing peak after peak of sexual bliss.

Orgasms on the Chakras

Muladhara Chakra

Muladhara chakra is the base chakra, seat of raw vitality and lust. An orgasm on muladhara is strong, deep, and gutteral. It can inspire animalistic grunting and roaring, biting and slapping.

Svaddhisthana Chakra

Home of romance and sexuality, svaddhisthana chakra is the location of the explosive orgasm, the quick, energy-releasing peak which leaves a woman disinterested in further stimulation. Internal orgasms based on stimulating the arms of the clitoris from within the vagina are also grounded in svaddhisthana chakra. This chakra can be very supportive of the orgasmic plateau, through its gentle, undulating, watery sexual movements.

Manipura Chakra

Manipura is the chakra of dominance and submission. Orgasms triggered by domination or submission, or from impact play, hair-pulling, and other intense stimulation, can have a strong manipura element. Cervical orgasms usually awaken manipura energy.

Anahata Chakra

Orgasms on anahata chakra create an overflowing of heart energy, often experienced as intense love. While the love can be personal, directed at a sexual partner, it can also be experienced as self-love, or unconditional love for all humanity. If the energy channels in the heart area are not completely clear, an orgasm on anahata can produce spasming in the arms and hands.

Vishuddha Chakra

Vishuddha chakra is involved in orgasms which access the transpersonal. Seeing other people, or a god, in the lover's face, out-of-body experiences, time dilation, and visions at the moment of orgasm can all be signs that vishuddha chakra is activated.

Ajna Chakra

Most people lose consciousness when ajna chakra opens during orgasm. It takes concerted training to tolerate the levels of energy required to bring consciousness to the level of ajna chakra. While it is rare to fully access the level of consciousness represented by ajna chakra, the area of the body ruled by this chakra, particularly the third eye area, can become very highly charged with energy during sexual practice. This can manifest as intense sensations in the head and between the eyes, and moments of profound insight or intuition.

Sahasrara Chakra

An orgasm at the level of sahasrara chakra is equivalent to reaching a state of enlightenment, or samadhi, in which there is no separation between the perceiver, the perceived, and the act of perceiving. To achieve this state is the ultimate goal of Tantric sexual practice, and indeed of all spiritual practice.

Orgasms on Erogenous Spots

The G-Spot Orgasm

Many sex educators and neo-Tantrics devote considerable energy to promoting the G-spot orgasm, which can be accompanied by female ejaculation.

The G-spot is located at the front of the vagina, and this area is intimately connected with the urethra. Pressure on the G-spot area will often produce a desire to urinate. Pressing on the area of the G-spot would stimulate the Skene's glands, which are said by some researchers to be the source of female ejaculate.

There is no clear evidence that pressure on your G-spot will make you produce female ejaculatory fluid. However, there is plenty of evidence to show that the G-spot can bring women intense sexual pleasure when stimulated. [2]

Obstacles to Female Orgasm

While some women find it relatively easy to reach states of orgasm, others have challenges. A Tantric practice, properly guided and supported with healing techniques, will progressively eliminate the obstacles to the orgasmic state.

Psychological Obstacles

The mind and emotions are intimately involved in Tantric orgasms. A complete Tantric practice will purify the system at every level - physically, energetically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

Social Pressure and Collective Trauma

Societal programming and the collective subconscious attitude around women’s sexuality are loaded with negative messages, paralysing conflicting instructions, and ancestral trauma. Be sexy - but not too sexy, or you "deserve what you get". Be desirable - but don't show too much desire of your own, or you will be branded a "slut". Be free and uninhibited - but don't offend anyone, or intimidate men. Be sexually skilled - at pleasing men, not pleasuring yourself. The list is almost endless.

The first step in opening into Tantric orgasms is to cultivate a harmonious relationship with one’s sexuality. This will involve a thorough process of investigating guilt, shame, and fear, and healing the many sexual traumas, large and small, which affect most women in modern society.

While supportive partners can be helpful in this process, the core work we do is in our relationship with ourselves. Identifying where we have internalised unhelpful messages about sexuality, and gently sending those programs back to where they came from is more powerful than thousand of words of affirmation from outside.

Lack of Information

Many women lack basic knowledge about their own anatomy, and what brings them pleasure. Some women, before learning the truth about female ejaculation, experienced shame or avoided sexual intimacy under the belief that they had wet the bed. Others suppressed sexual climax, and sought medical advice for this "problem", and even underwent surgery. Others have sought cosmetic surgery on their labia, feeling there is something wrong with the natural shape.

Emotional Ambivalence

Many people are far more comfortable giving than receiving. The nature of yin, the feminine energy, is receptivity. A Tantric woman is open to receive – pleasure, love, admiration, support, protection, guidance, and material assistance.

Childhood emotional neglect is a major cause of resistance to receiving. It can produce feelings of unworthiness, distrust of the giver's motives, and a sense of shame around needing anything from anyone else. Giving and receiving are primarily governed by the heart chakra, and practices for opening the heart can be very helpful in resolving emotional ambivalence about receiving.

Resistance to Surrender

It is important for opening into Tantric orgasms that a woman remains in a state of openness, love, and presence. Paradoxically, turning sex into a goal-oriented event and chasing after orgasms interferes with the development of genuine Tantric orgasms. Only by letting go of the attachment to "achieving" orgasm can a woman attain the state of orgasm, the orgasmic plateau which can be sustained for long periods of time.

Surrender is primarily governed by the navel chakra, and practices to strengthen and balance the navel chakra can be useful in developing the ability to surrender. In this context, "surrender" is not surrendering to another person, but to the rhythms of the body, the flow of energy, and, ultimately, to the Divine. It is placing something else above one's individual ego. The ego may be frightened, angry, or otherwise unwilling to "let go" and allow a spontaneous flow. Subordinating the ego to something higher, either one's Divine Self, or the Universal Divine, can open a path to Tantric orgasm, even when there is still healing work to be done within the individual ego.

Physical Obstacles

The physical body is intimately involved with the female orgasm, and a strong awareness of the body is essential for Tantric practice. Western culture is not highly supportive of women developing a strong connection with their bodies, particularly the sexual pleasure available from their bodies. A Tantric practice will usually require specific practices to improve the health and strength of the physical body, as well as the awareness of the physical and energetic sensations of sexual pleasure.

Health Challenges

A healthy vagina has large colonies of lactobacilli, "good" bacteria that make up an essential part of the natural vaginal flora. These bacteria produce lactic acid, and create an environment in the vagina with a pH level of 3.8 to 4.4, which is optimally acidic. Many factors can disturb the natural balance in the vagina.  Stress, a weakened immune system due to illness, the common cold, and the use of drugs such as antibiotics and contraceptive pills can lead to an imbalance of vaginal flora.Vaginal complaints such as itching, burning, and discharge can be signs of a bacterial or yeast infection.

The pelvic floor is a vital, often overlooked component of sexual pleasure, as well as general health. The pelvic floor muscles may be weak, or tense, or, in some cases, both at the same time. Pelvic floor weakness can cause stress incontinence, as well as weak orgasms, while a tense pelvic floor can result in urge incontinence, and pain during intercourse.

Numbness, Tension and Pain

Physical and emotional trauma can be stored in the pelvic area as numbness, tension, inflammation, or pain. While sexual trauma is usually the first suspect, in fact any traumatic experience can cause a reflexive tightening of the pelvic floor, even an experience apparently unrelated to sexuality.

Exploring sexuality, and getting to know all the parts of one's body and sexual organs, can trigger the release of these long-stored traumas. It is important to take the time, space, and self-permission required to allow old traumas to surface and be released. Otherwise, the numbness, tension or pain may remain an obstacle to Tantric orgasm.

Practical Obstacles

Many women lack basic knowledge about their own anatomy, and what brings them pleasure. Spend time alone learning how to feel the different areas of the vulva and vagina, and discover what movements bring the most pleasure at different stages of arousal and orgasm.

A busy lifestyle, in which sexual activity is crammed in late at night, when we are tired and stressed, is an obstacle to Tantric orgasms. Opening, relaxing, exploring and surrendering take time, and awareness. Schedule time to practice when you are rested, comfortable, and alert.

Many women resist Tantric practice because they are waiting for "the right partner". Solo practice is always an option, and is recommended, even for women with a highly suitable and enthusiastic Tantric partner.

References

  1. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_ejaculation accessed 19 July, 2017.
  2. Female Ejaculation by Dr David Delvin accessed 19 July 2017.
  3. Trouble Reaching Orgasm? by Dr David Delvin accessed 19 July 2017.
  4. Tantra Fundamentals course papers, 2016, by Agama Yoga.